Could these issues of age gao and distance be a problem in a new relationship?

I have met someone I really like but two things worry me slightly:





1) There is an age gap. I am 31, she is 22.


2) We live a bit of a distance apart, about 3 hours.





The second one is not a major issue in the short term. We met when I was in her city with friends. One of my friends was chatting to her friend who mentioned to him that this girl seemed to really like me. My friend told her that I had just come out of a serious relationship (it was 6 mths ago but I am only just over it) and she didn't seem to mind.





I don't want a rebound relationship and the distance may help in the early days, i.e. we can see each other every week or 2 weeks and take things slowly.





We chat all the time, like a lot of the same stuff etc Her friend, who I am also in touch with, has said how much this girl likes me.





I do really like her but wonder if those things could be an issue. Any thoughts? She has invited me up to stay in a week or so.|||you act like your new to this. ask someone who's been through it and not on yahoo either.|||They do sound like the inevitable barriers, but if its meant to be, its meant to be.


Don't stop persuing her because you think it may not work.


Its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.


At the least, you will come out with a broken heart- but with more experience to move foreward with. Have no regrets and no expectations. Love is free and you should treat it like that in your heart as well.


Good luck to ya.|||I wouldn't worry about the age gap. My boyfriend and I have an age gap of 9 years too. We've been together for 6 years and still going strong. We stayed 200 miles apart and then 2 years ago moved beside me. He has a good here and we live together now. We're both very committed. It was really hard work to keep the long distance relationship going ,but it's all worth it. Hope this helps x|||It needn't be a big problem. I was 20 when we met, my husband was 11 years older than me, and lived a couple of hours away, and we managed ok/





the only problem I found was that I got very resentful of his, 'been there, seen that, you wouldn't like it' attitude, so maybe you might like to see everything as 'new' when you are together. Other than that, I enjoyed his mature attitude and experience when it came to thinks like dining out. This lady is old enough to know what she wants and it sounds as though that's you. Go for it. Good Luck.|||Don't worry about the age gap or what other people think. Your both consenting adults.....if your having fun and making each other happy what's the problem.|||if you both want it to work it will work, anything is possible relationshipwise and age isn't an issue unless you make it one, the guy I love is like 15 years older than me but i don't care what other people think as long as we'll be together forever, just stick at it and work hard and just think is what you gain more than you loose? x good luck|||don't worry about the age gap its nothing to worry about.All i can say about the distance is if u r both meant to be give it time and it will work it self out, she may move in with u one day or vise versa.|||Hey bro,


Ive had a few relationships that I thought wouldnt work becuase of the obvious hurdles. Most of mine were reversed though, myself being the younger. (I had an older woman thing i guess). But in the end, our breakups had nothing to do with the age or ethnicity, but because of the normal things that a couple goes through....ie.: space issues, differences of opinion, different paths in life (etc.)





However, if you want a serious relationship with her you may be playing to lose because a 22 year old girl has alot of expectations and is "going places"...she will probably outgrow you, so I wouldnt get too invested.





Use what you learned in your last relationship. If you want a casual, fun, sexual good times thing you must let her know!! And you must stick by that. It took me a while to be able to come out and say that to a woman, but I didnt feel like a jerk like I thought I would. I actually felt good and relieved. She acted shocked and appalled at first, but she admired my honesty and called me the next week.





Thats not to say that you cant make something more out of it later, but considering the circumstances it may be wise to start this way...dont tell her "I just want to @#$%!" (although that might work) but tell her your not trying to get all serious. Shes probably not either...shes 22 for gods sake.





As far as distance goes, 3 hours is nothing. Honestly, come on. Good luck, youre the man.





John|||If you both see the one that you want to be with when you lkook at each other and your hearts and minds are with each other then there is nothing more to say or do......................................鈥?TOGETHER.


D|||u think thats weird!!!??


1)my bf is 20..and im 16


2)he lives in mexico and me in the UK.....bit of a distance ther!!!


but thatr dusnt change how i feel for him...maybe it makes us stronger =D





good luck|||I remember from your posts, you went through a lot with your ex and you really gave it your best. It is so hard when you have really loved someone and then been let down. And its scary starting again with someone new. You sound like a pretty honest and caring guy. My advice would be to take things slowly and enjoy yourself. Remember every relationship is different. This girl could be like a breath of fresh air into your life. Talk things through with her when you get to know her better. For now just concentrate on relaxing and enjoying yourself and her company. Everyone deserves a bit of happiness. It is hard starting over again and you may feel arkward at first. Just take it easy and enjoy it for what it is. It may last a month it may last a year.... who knows. Just be yourself and have fun!